Tribalectic Body Jewelry Store - Body Piercing Jewelry and Accessories Login |  Sign Up |  View Cart |  Checkout
Shopping Cart# of Items: 0 Subtotal: $0.00
Visit our Facebook page Visit our MySpace page Visit our Twitter page
Shop Catalog By

New to piercing? Post your questions or share your experiences here.

Moderators: Jwiggles, Mrs.Jen, BadKiTtY

Return to Never Been Pierced Forum


How difficult can it be?


Postby danmartyn40 » Sun Jul 17, 2016 9:53 am

I have wanted just a simple ear piercing for around 23 years. To be fair, for some of this time, I never thought about it but on and off it has been a lingering thought. I thought I would do it last year when I turned 40 but either lost the bottle or, when I finally decided to do it, got very ill with flu. I am now floating on in life wondering if I will ever do it. It seems so easy to say just go and do it but I am in a professional job, my other half isn't at all keen and I know it will be seen as a mid life crisis. Do I just forget about it?
danmartyn40


Posts: 4
Joined: Sat Jun 11, 2016 9:09 am

Postby stealer » Sun Jul 17, 2016 11:58 am

Only you can answer these questions, but I can relate my own personal experiences. Back before I had any piercings, I was interested in them, but not enough to get a piercing of my own, it was just a little too far out there for me. But then one day I saw a photo of an ampallang. It freaked me out at first, I had absolutely no idea you could pierce that part of the human body. But the more I thought about it, the more fascinated I became at the thought of having one. Months went by, but finally one day I just couldn't wait any longer, and later that night I went to bed with my first body piercing. It was the best feeling in the world. I felt like I could do anything after that experience. I quickly followed it up with a few others, most recently being both of my nipples. The one thing I can tell you from all of this is that although I had to convince myself to take that leap, I have absolutely no regrets about getting my piercings.

Everyone has their own reasons for wanting to get a piercing, but you asked if it was a midlife thing. The answer in definitely not. The one thing you will find as you spend more time here on Tribe is that people from all walks of life and all ages have piercings, from 18 years-old to retirees, blue collar workers and students to teachers, physicians and nurses. These days, people with piercings don't fit into any particular mold, we come from all walks of life. There's probably a lot more people out there with piercings than you realize.

One important point. Sometimes its definitely not easy, as you suggested. I went back and forth for several years before I finally decided to get my nipples pierced. I probably drove some of my Tribe buddies crazy while I was weighing the pros and cons. It took a while, but when the day finally came, I knew it was the right time and that I was making the right choice to have them pierced. Don't worry if it takes a while for you to decide, you'll know when its time.

In the meantime, hang out here on Tribe, and please ask questions. People here are very open and more than happy to help.
The box said "Requires Windows XP or better", so I bought a Mac.
User avatar
stealer I got my nipples re-pierced today. Feels great to have them back!
Updated 1 year ago


Posts: 399
Joined: Wed May 13, 2009 7:22 pm
Location: United States

Postby danmartyn40 » Sat Jul 30, 2016 4:11 am

Thank you for your response. I am grateful for your thoughts. I suppose the big thing for me is I really want to get my ear pierced, but that is much more visible and noticeable than nipple or genital piercings. I am not interested in doing any other piercing although I have thought about it because it would overcome that issue. I just like ear piercings on men but don't seem to have the bottle to do it myself. My partner doesn't help me by being very less than keen on the idea.
danmartyn40


Posts: 4
Joined: Sat Jun 11, 2016 9:09 am

Postby Tombstone » Sat Jul 30, 2016 9:37 am

Ear lobe piercings are about accepted everywhere for men I thought. I worked for the State of Texas for several years and they had no problems with them. It is hard to imagine a more conservative employer, however, I'm sure there might be one or two of them out there?

My entry into piercings involved nipples and PAs to keep them hidden from view. I am an active Mormon ... and when you look that church up in the dictionary, it says "see conservatives." My motivation for these was a combination of mid-life crisis, getting dumped by my wife for a man 10 years younger than me, and that one youthful sighting of my first PA at a public urinal....been wanting to get at least one PA since I saw that one at either age 16 or 17.

Anyway, if you want it, go for it. Considering that you want the ear piercing(s) get them. If necessary you can always pull them and let them heal closed, no big deal. But, I bet no one will care other than noticing the addition. Hell, Harrison Ford has a pierced ear. But, when it comes to getting permission to do somethings .... I learned long ago, with conservative minds, it is easier to repent than to get permission. I'd advise you to go for it! And get a pro piercer to do the job so you can be assured of a proper placement!
Tombstone
a.k.a. Mitch E. "Sticky" Gander
Western Texas
User avatar
Tombstone reported Mark Zuckerberg's photo as containing porn or nudity to Facebook.
Updated 1 year ago


Posts: 548
Joined: Mon Mar 11, 2013 11:00 pm
Location: ODDLAND (ODessa/miDLAND area of Texas)

Postby MikeinChicago » Sat Jul 30, 2016 4:59 pm

I work in healthcare and I am reminded every single day of life's fragility and how quickly health can suddenly change. Hence, my mantra: life is too short. Honestly, what is the big deal about getting your ear pierced? If you want to do it, do it! If you don't like it, you remove it and move on. End of story. Or, you might love it and wonder why the heck you waited so long. As for worrying about what other people think, including your partner, screw that! (no disrespect to your partner, but there are far worse things you could be doing than getting your ear pierced. He or she really needs to pick his/her battles). Remember, life is too short, you don't know what tomorrow will bring. So, get out there and live it!
User avatar
MikeinChicago is
Updated 1 year ago


Posts: 12
Joined: Sat Feb 14, 2015 3:44 pm
Location: Chicago, IL USA

Postby macwanabe » Sun Jul 31, 2016 11:49 pm

I agree with Mike, I grew up in an extremely conservative family. I wanted to pierce my ears since I was 17 but never had the guts to do it. At age 34 I decided to just do it and not worry anymore what other people think. At this stage I had had a PA for a number of years and also had my nipples pierced without my families knowledge. My mom said flat out she does not like it. To this day she has not said a word about my tattoo. Now almost 5 years later no one even notice it anymore and its just part of me and how people know me. I visited an eastern European country that's very conservative and the people looked a bit surprised with my pierced years, not knowing of the others, but after a couple of days they saw me for who I am, not who they thought I might be. I was recently diagnosed with end stage heart failure and this made me realise that its better to do things, see if you like it and keep on doing it or if you don't change back. Regretting that you never tried something and now you are stuck without getting another go is much worse.
User avatar
macwanabe Added new photos
Updated 9 weeks ago


Posts: 21
Joined: Sun Aug 01, 2010 6:54 am

Postby wakeuffel » Mon Aug 01, 2016 4:30 pm

I have wanted my ears pierced for awhile but with my job can't have them in while at work. But getting the time to get them healed so I can leave them out for an hour here and there. But I also want them to be pierced a bit larger then normal. but have wanted them for awhile and the desire hasn't diminished any.

I grew up in a very conservative family where my parents aren't happy about my tattoos but don't know about any of my piercings. Figure one thing at a time but will hopefully have my ears pierced sooner then later.
User avatar
wakeuffel


Posts: 25
Joined: Thu May 12, 2011 9:26 am
Location: Washington

Postby Tombstone » Tue Aug 02, 2016 8:38 am

As an old restaurant manager, who fought the fight to allow my employees to wear ear rings while on duty, (decades prior to my getting any piercings.) I have trouble even imagining a job where removal would be required, other than maybe brain or open heart surgery?
Tombstone
a.k.a. Mitch E. "Sticky" Gander
Western Texas
User avatar
Tombstone reported Mark Zuckerberg's photo as containing porn or nudity to Facebook.
Updated 1 year ago


Posts: 548
Joined: Mon Mar 11, 2013 11:00 pm
Location: ODDLAND (ODessa/miDLAND area of Texas)

Postby danmartyn40 » Tue Aug 02, 2016 11:49 pm

Thanks again for your thoughts. I do take on board the points you make about life being too short. I do understand that. My best mate died at the end of last year, very suddenly, at the age of only 57. He was a total one off, the most funny person I have, and probably will, ever meet. But he suffered continuous ill health and this really blighted his ability to make the most out of life. I myself hit a brick wall about 2 years and so used my 40th birthday last year to spend the year doing things I had not done before. It is in this context that I have thought about getting pierced, something I first wanted to do 23 years ago! But although I have been into piercing shops for advice I just haven't quite found the bottle to go through with it. And I have to admit my partner's reaction did somewhat surprise me. I hadn't expected quite such a negative response. In protest, I have grown a beard instead. It is coincidence but my mate told me several times that he wished he had the bottle to get his ears pierced. He never did. Part of me wants to do it for him but I don't think it was high on his list of regrets. Not having more sex was probably top of his list.....
danmartyn40


Posts: 4
Joined: Sat Jun 11, 2016 9:09 am

Postby Jwiggles » Wed Aug 03, 2016 6:42 pm

I hadn't yet commented here and this is a great discussion with some really good input.

It is always important to try and discuss things with your partner ahead of time and get their opinion or even their blessing on something like this. They do have to go through the healing process with you. Ultimately the choice is up to you, and only you can make it.

When I was thinking about having my nipples pierced way back when, I discussed it with both my partners at the time and neither one voiced a straight "no way". My boyfriend tried to convince me how painful his was and he tried to talk me out of it. Mind you, his was not done properly and I can't even discuss how it was done or I wold be violating our rules (rule #1 specifically). Our girlfriend didn't really voice her thoughts one way or another.

I did eventually have both nipples pierced and loved them from day one. I still love them. Our girlfriend did not love them however, and it was the beginning of a long downward spiral for us. The issue was obviously larger than the piercings (and remember she never voiced any opinion prior to me getting them done) and we were bound to not last. If she had told me that she didn't want me to get them, I would have tried to educate her on why and my reasons behind it. I can't honestly say that I wouldn't have had them done anyway but I would have waited until I could change her mind.

If I hadn't had them done I would have regretted it, and I would never have joined this site or made the friends I have made along the way. It's not a cliche or a lie for me to tell you that my life changed drastically once I made the decision to get pierced. My mind opened and I really blossomed into the person I am now.

Take what you want from my rambling. Just my two cents here.

Jwiggles
Life is short; enjoy your pain.
User avatar
Jwiggles RIP Trisha. I will miss you.
Updated 1 year ago


Posts: 2673
Joined: Mon Jan 26, 2009 8:17 pm
Location: New Jersey

Next

Return to Never Been Pierced Forum

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest
Current chat users:

cron
 

Fatal error: Not able to open ./cache/data_global.php in D:\tribalectic\Drupal\forum\includes\acm\acm_file.php on line 112